When your baby is crying, there is an impulse to ascertain why. You want to alleviate his symptoms and avoid them in the future. Is she hungry? Does he need a diaper change? Is it a digestive difficulty? Is she cold? Overstimulated? Understimulated?
It is easy to run yourself in circles trying to placate your baby. I have come to believe this is a counterproductive habit for the parents of a colic baby. The bottom line is the baby is going to do a ton of crying no matter what you do. There may be an occasional ascertainable solution for the tears, an elixir he can drink, an ointment you can put on her, a movement that soothes him into sleep.
At best these are band-aids for the colic baby. The next day will come and she will resume crying around her usual time. The salve you were so sure assuaged his tears last night now does nothing. That carefully-choreographed movement you developed yesterday just pisses her off this afternoon.
Psychologically, it is better to accept the crying as an invincible enemy. There is only one real antidote: time.
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